thanks for clarifying the meaning of that 'Sorry, this page isn't available' message. i thought it meant i was blocked from this user. Their photo still shows in the link when i search by their name.
I am not and never have been friends with this person. She is the owner of a closed group on FB that i'm a member of, or i was a member until a couple of days ago. I have a lot of much loved friends on this group, people i have not friended but who i have just developed relationships within the group. It's a support group for a serious and rare health problem.
I have gotten some ambiguous but not good vibes from the owner in the past, i didn't think it was a big deal, and i thought that it was just her issue and if she was misperceiving me, there wasn't much i could do about it. i've always been polite, respectful, and even friendly to her. The problem as best i can understand it is a difference of opinion or orientation toward some group topics, maybe a cultural difference. I did not imagine that i was giving her any reason to hate me.
Two days ago, i think i was banned from the group. I do not know why. I did not get a message telling me that was somehow outside the terms and conditions or anything like that. What happened was, i went to the group page, using the Facebook search field, as i always have before, the link to the group came up when i typed the name, i clicked on it, but instead of being taken to the group page, i was just taken back to my newsfeed.
Something happened right before this which made me suspicious that i may have been banned. The week before, i had major abdominal surgery, related to the topic of this support group. People on the group give and receive support. When i pulled through the surgery very well, i wrote a post from the hospital, got some replies. Then, i was discharged and went home. i was excited about that and i wrote a post to the group, telling them how i came home, what my doctor said, etc. I sent the post.
Later, i looked for the post on the group but couldn't find it. Then i did find it, briefly, but then it was gone again. Part of the post was there and then it was truncated because it was a long post, and there was a link that said 'see more' that you could click on to see the rest of the post. When i clicked on it, i got a message that said something about the link being broken and maybe it was removed or maybe i didn't have permission to access it. After that, i couldn't find the post. I looked several times, i saw my other posts there, but this later one, the most recent one, was gone. i thought back about what i wrote. Did i write anything that would be considered unacceptable? i couldn't imagine anything. It didn't include opinion, and was just a newsy report about the details of being discharged and coming home and how i felt, how well i felt and how happy i was.
But that post was gone. I've never had a post disappear on there before. I wasn't sure what happened because i had spilled water on my computer and fried it, and was using a different poorly working computer, so maybe that could explain the missing post, though i definitely did see it on the FB site twice after i had posted it, and suspected for some unknown reason, the site owner had deleted it.
So then i posted a second post telling the group about how i was discharged and doing well and happy. I said that i had written another post but it had disappeared and i was sorry if this was a duplicate. i got some supportive replies.
Then, that evening, suddenly i wasn't able to get onto the group site anymore. even before i first joined the group, i could get onto their page, but now, i can't get onto the page at all.
I feel really bad about this, people on the group are all going through what i'm going through with this weird illness, and it's wonderful to find other people going through it. It's curable by surgery but the surgery is scary and can cause problems of its own. The people going through these things really need each other. Having just gotten through the surgery, i really needed my friends on the group. I do not know what i did that the owner considers to be a bad influence. Obviously, i don't think very highly of someone who would cut me off at a time when i really need support and my other friends on there don't know why i am not there anymore. They may think i had a good outcome with my surgery and have just turned my back on them. They may think something went wrong with my recovery.
I am sure the person who has banned me believes they have good reasons for doing it, we are all well intended and believe we are doing the right thing. But i have no idea what has caused this person to kick me out of her group, no explanation, no reason, and also blocking me from her personal account so that i can try to find out what is going on. i would be open to hearing what her reasons are. But based on what i know at this point, i seem to be dealing with an oddly unreasonable person, who i realize is going through a hard time with the illness, but for me, it's painful because i had many friends on that group, again, not FB friends but group friends, and now i have none, and relationships that were growing and enjoyable are ended just like that, relationships focused on the most important thing in my life and in their lives right now. it's an unreplaceable social and emotional resource.
I do plan to try friending those people so that i can at least tell them why i'm not on the group anymore, but first, i wanted to know why, and that is what brought me to this page. i have one friend on the group who i knew before joining it, it was me who told her about it, we know each other from another forum. We PM a lot. i PM'd her to ask if the site is down and she replied and said it's working fine. So i now have ruled out that explanation. And this blog about blocking people on FB has helped me to clarify that the owner has indeed blocked me in order, apparently, to avoid any communication with me about the issue of banning me from the group.
It's just so weird that she would think i was so bad that it's justified to handle it this way. I am a friendly respectful person who is always willing to see other people's points of view, and i do not understand what was in my post that was deleted that caused her to delete it. If she just has some mental issues that are beyond my control, i can let that go and not worry about it, if only it didn't mean i am now being cut off from lots of people who i love to know and have conversations and share support with. It's a big loss for me.